Comments on: Teenage Girls Talk About Popularity (or, “being popular”)

By: Lucy Ann

Lucy Ann — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 01:32:44 +0000

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts on this topic, everytime you share you help someone else who is struggling with this issue. I appreciate your different views. Remember, ‘fitting in’ ~ being ‘popular’ are terms those around us create to try and put everyone in the same box, and if you don’t fit….well…then you are not part of the popular crowd. I am thankful God made us all different. I want to encourage you to be who God created you to be. Being accepted for who you are is a wonderful thing, and for those who do not accept you…I consider that their loss. Stay focused on God’s love for you and share that love with as many people as possilbe. There is no fun in ‘drama’ …strive for peace in your life. Keep smiling and keep being a blessing to others.

By: Danielle

Danielle — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 23:49:19 +0000

I don’t like the term popular because it is so vague. Im going to be a freshman this year and I consider myself popular but popular for the right reasons… I’m not popular because I wear name brand clothes, or make fun of people for no apparent reason.. I’m popular because I’m nice to people and I treat them like human beings. Popular is as popular does… The gossiping is unnecessary, though I admit I’m not perfect and I have gossiped before, but I look at my friends who are in spats every day with each other and its all because one spread a rumor, or stretched the truth. Drama is stupid and I don’t know why most girls in my class thrive on that. If there isn’t some type of drama during the day, well then to them its just plain boring. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’d prefer a crazy boring day to a day where best friends are pitted against each other. And I probably get talked about too, the label goody two shoes is thrown around quite a bit, but I don’t care. I value my friendships, not my popularity or my status at school. I’m the person who tells the new girl or guy hey and helps them finding their classes, not the one who judges them right away!! I wish more girls could see people the way I see them.

By: Gabby

Gabby — Mon, 24 May 2010 16:02:29 +0000

I’m not popular and get depressed by girls who get boys that are cute and everything but really, they don’t really deserve it. I try not to judge but I find it really true. All my best friends since 1st grade are really okay when it comes to new friends but when you become best friends with them, they bully you. My best friend bullies me. And she abuses me cause I am too kind to them. But one time, I asked myself I have so many best friends but none of them are true. They abuse me because of my kindness. I don’t know why. I think i’m just this useless girl whom nobody cares about. But I accept life truly. And sometimes I have fun with my best friends they’re really fun to be with. But they bully me. One time I had a boyfriend when I was in 5th grade, he was one of the most popular guys in school.. So I became popular too. But our relationship was a disaster. I had many friends since then. And many people liked me, but among the people i’m sure they gossip about me. I try to fit in and enjoy life. And later on I realized, that not being popular is everything. Because being popular cost many gossipers too. And i’ll just keep myself as this crazy fun girl. I’m just quite sad that I haven’t found the true friend i’m finding. But, this is a great article! thanks alot.

By: nemo

nemo — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 08:34:04 +0000

im 5′ 8 too and not popular. i think being popular is over-rated because
a. most people won’t like you anyway
b. being popular usually means doing what the crowd is doing, and the crowd usually doesn’t do the right thing
c. why would you like to have a small group o friends who may pretend to like than be friends with a lot of people and not have a particular group or clique

By: Lucy Ann

Lucy Ann — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:53:17 +0000

Maggie, You can trust God and trust in God’s word. Those around you are not perfect, just like we are not perfect. God is not done with any of us yet. You should not feel like you fit in with the world, we are not of this word, our home is with God, so we should feel uncomfortable in the world, that’s okay. As for the ‘love’! What you say about feeling more love in the world than in church, I hear often. You are not alone. It shouldn’t be that way…but don’t give up on your faith. God loves you, his love is unconditional and always available to you. When you are not feeling loved by others, go to God and tell him, and allow him to demonstrate his love to you. He will, he is faithful and he loves you! Stay close to God, keep reading his word, spend time with him…he will reveal more of himself to you every day, and you will feel loved! Blessings!

By: maggie

maggie — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 02:34:52 +0000

Thank you so much.Well i do have only have one friend,but its not fair i only have one? makes me feel unacceptable been going to that church for years and nothing has made me happy.But i am keeping my head up.i Feel like they hate me,since i am not into the group dont show same love.”supposively” they ar einto thee word of god.i believe so too,but some things dont seem Jesus like.i Get along withn the world try my best to be my Christian Self.But it feeels like the world will show me more love then the christians,but the world i feel so unconfortable yeah they show me love,but not the kind of love anybody would want its the world?you cant trust no one.you cant trust it right?

By: Lucy Ann

Lucy Ann — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 01:11:49 +0000

Maggie,
Friends will dissappoint us at times, it happens to everyone. The “church” is made up of the “people” that are there, people will make mistakes and poor dicisions. That is why we all need Jesus. Look to Jesus for your approval, Trust God to place the right people in your life, he will. Keep pressing on, the race is not over yet…. God is cheering you on!!

By: Shelby

Shelby — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:28:04 +0000

If you’re worried about being popular and fitting in, don’t. Those girls are really shallow and pretty mean most of the time. I’ve been going to the same school since Kindergarten, so I’ve known these people my whole life. The thing is, nowadays you don’t have to worry about ‘fitting in’ or ‘being popular’ because there will always be a group for you to fit in. And with prayer and faith in this amazing God that we have… you can find that right group. All it takes is patience and trust. That’s all I have to say… don’t know if it helps any…

By: maggie

maggie — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:07:54 +0000

awesome article,but what hurts me? is why are there even cliques in CHURCH.people dislike these people.oh these people dont talk.me?im just confused what kind of church am i getting myself into. im a shy girl,well now i am.since high school changed me,last sunday we had and youth activity.after all the times..i went for her to church.to overcome the obstacle of facing her ex.who now is her actual boyfriend again.she left me,she dosent need me.after all that God took away the poepl form highschool,that have chnaged for the worst.i thought i could have faith with this “friend” i guess not? why?

By: Mariah

Mariah — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 01:43:52 +0000

I go to a public school…where there is temptation everywhere! You don’t want to seem like a softy when somebody say something negative to you but you also don’t want to get in trouble. Your sin nature is telling you to just fight fire with fire..but God is telling you cool out the fire.
I’m tempted everyday. I envy girls who look better than me…or has the boyfriend I like. Yet..I get sexually harrassed. I have a [no trying to sound conceited or anything...] behind and I don’t like it. One point in my life..I wanted that..so I can have a boyfriend. But the only thing they like is your behind. They don’t love you. And I had many heartbreaks because of that too.
I try and at least think WHAT WOULD JESUS DO? And that is just out of the question. Before I tried to grow close to God..I have a friend who believes homosexuality is right and that how do we know God didn’t write the bible? And all this atheist thoughts. I’m trying to get her saved..but she doesn’t want to listen. Something is telling me to not be her friend. But something is also telling me to get her saved.
I want to change..but I don’t want to leave nobody behind.
I love the article. It completly touched me. Please be in prayer of me.
Pray for me to overcome temptation. Pray for my friend(s) who are not saved.