Popularity! How important is it for teenage girls to be popular? To what extent are you willing to go to become part of the “in-group”? Are you willing to compromise your values just to say you are friends with a certain crowd? Why is this worth discussing you may think, but of course everyone wants to be accepted. I want to challenge you to evaluate what your personal definition of popularity is. Let’s look at the life of Jesus…Jesus was certainly sought after , but not necessarily with the “popular groups” of that day. Jesus did not follow the crowd, Jesus stayed close to God and did only what God told him to do, and this is what made him so attractive to others. I want to challenge you not to “follow the crowd” for the sake of trying to become accepted by others. You must learn to be the best “YOU” that you can be, and often times this means going against the crowd. What is God telling you to do? Perhaps God is nudging you to be a friend to the new girl on the block, or volunteer your time after school at a study group. It is God’s acceptance of you that will have a lasting impact on your life. The popular groups will come and go, but God’s plans for your life will stretch into eternity. Spend some time praying and asking God just how you can use the gifts and talents he has given you to become “popular” in his eyes.
This is your opportunity to share your thoughts/comments regarding popularity. Please share how this article relates to your life, feel free to ask questions and let’s dialogue (or, “talk”) together around God’s principles.
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i go to a small christian school… and my class all hangs out together, we try not to gossip… or get into fights. i think its really cool, but i have never been to a school that is different than that. so at my school, sure there are some people that are probably more liked than others, just because they are nice to everyone… or fun to be around. but theres not like a “popular group”… im going to highschool in two years, not a christian one, so its going to be tough! but i will just remember…. What Would Jesus Do?
I go to a public school and im 15 and i am in 10th grade and there is one group in peticular that is the “populars” and they walk around the school like they own the place and they make fun of everyone and the only reason they are the “populars” is becuase they have the nice clothes and they make everyone scared of them. And it really bothers me and i wish i could say that not every girl gossips but even this other girl gossips its just a natural thing for girls. We live off of the things people tell us no matter what it is and the more juicy it is the more you want to spread it.
i dont get why people call “gossipers, rich, spoiled, mean, scary girls” POPULAR?! at my school the popular ones are usually the ones with sweet clothes and stuff… cuz thats what attracts them together… their clothes and looks. then they have got a little group going on… they think they are all that… and they always find someone to make fun with or talk about. sure girls dont wanna talk about dirtbikes and guy things… me and my friends try not to gossip but sometimes if one of them is having a fight with someone we talk about why they are fighting… for instance.. not about the other person…. cuz really.. if you take a look at how much you talk about people… just imagine how much people talk about YOU! its kinda scary….
I am now waiting for my entrance exam result… The thing is that evryone thinks that i will get through the exam…yes i do have the confidence and trust God but at times i do get scared…there were pals in my high school who use to say ‘yeah Sherrin she will get through this exam that exam’..but with this i become over confident and i dont get through…the same thing is happening here and i dont know what to do…it really is scaring me…Whoever is reading this pls pray that I get through this exam
I went to public school from k-8th grade and I was never in hte popular group,but it really didn’t bother me until I was in about 8th grade. I moved to a different town and I was very shy.I didn’t tallk to many people. most of the popular people in my school were supposedly christians. they were nice to me but I really don’t think they wnted to hang out with me. I got involved with a group of girls who were not christian and lets just say that was not a good idea. i thought I was a christain and I could help bring them to christ but they ended up causing me to stumble. all of my life i had thought I was saved until this past year. I felt god tugging a t my heart one night at youth group.I was saved right then and there. i was so hAPPY. Now my life felt like it was complete. I go to a small christaian school in lynchburg (Clearview Christian School) and will be senior this coming year. we have a couple of popular people but everyone knows everyone. I have a few close friends in middle school and thats who I hang out with. Ireally don’t feel that comfortable hanging out with girls in my highschool but im still nice to them. Anyway girls you don’t need to be popular to be happy. Just be yourself and if they like you they like you. if they don’t they don’t .
Girls,
Thanks for all your responses… remember each and every one of you are popular in the eyes of Jesus. Keep your focus on the things of God and not what the other girls might be saying or thinking about you. It is often tough to find exactly where you “fit In”, however, remember that if you have to be anyone other than yourself to fit in, that is not the place for you to be. May God continue to guide your steps as you choose to follow him in all you do. Blessings.
What a great article! I have to say, though, I totally agree with you on the drawing close to God thing. I’ve always gone to private school, and before 6th grade I was always upset because I wanted so badly to be with the “popular crowd,” which was extremely small and obvious because it was such a small school. Then from 6th grade on, I decided to not try to be popular anymore–and it worked! I was and still am friends with pretty much the whole grade, no matter what group they’re in. And it’s all because I decided to let go of trying to be popular. I thought to myself: I’d rather be a real dork than a poser! And it worked.
xoxoxo Bumblebee
Thanks for your encouraging comment. It is nice to hear that in the mist of trying to fit; in that you can also decide to just be yourself…. good for you…. God has made all of us in a unique way, and we are at our best when we are just being ourselves. Blessings.
okay this doesn’t have to do much with popularity, but here i go. me and my friends have been going to a small christian school for pretty much our whole life and we have bad and good teachers, but this year we had a really… a really horrible principal. she teaches us math and science and stuff. and its supposed to be a christian school right… but apparently she has been lying to some students and students’ parents. and then my friend failed her math exam, i kinda knew she wouldn’t do that great, but i didnt expect her to fail. then her mom just politely asked the principal if she could see my friends exam, with her writing and work on it, but the principal just gave her a blank copy of the exam and told her that they shredded my friends exam… im just like what the heck!! they should have a right to see it. and schools are supposed to keep records of everything, especially of exams. so either she was lying when she told them she shredded it, or she went against rules and shredded the exam. its just really crazy. school is finally out but pretty much all of my friends are going to the junior highschool (grades 8 and 9). that school isnt the greatest because everyone gives into peer pressure and there is a lot of bullying. so a lot of people dont know where to turn, but most of my friends parents have decided to give the junior highschool a try. im praying that everything will be alright. i have seen other people go there and completely change in just a week.. like change in a bad way just to fit in. im pretty thankful because my mom is planning on homeschooling me next year… so i just really need all of your prayers right now. we have the whole summer to wait for a miracle from God, but please just pray for the christian school i am talking about. i think its mostly the principal thats causing all of this because the school board is probably trying to sort out the schools problems themselves, rather than asking God for help. thank you so much!
I know about popularity. It is really a crazy thing. My school is a Christian School but kids still have different kinds of levels and stuff. It is really annoying. I can’t stand it. Sometimes, I even get really sad about it. People in my school has to be a tall and cool in order to have authority and to have long lasting friends. It’s a llife rule made by kids that makes me mad. It makes me mad because I am a short and non-cool person. I talked to my mum about this and she kept on telling me to take out the popularity view and think everyone is created the same. It was like a crazy thing to do at first. But, I found out it did help a lot and it was pretty nice. Now adays, sometimes I do have levels of popularity, but not a lot. I sometimes doesn’t exactly know what is popular and what it means. It is just much more easy for me to be happy in my school. If you also have problems about popularity, ask your parents for advice. I think it helps a lot if you apply them to what you are going through.
Girls, I am happy to see that you are sharing your thoughts with us all on this important topic. All your responses are valuable, thanks for taking the time to share. I am praying for you all, God loves you and we at prayer for youth love you too. Keep your eyes on Jesus……
about what florence said. it all makes sense except i just had a curious question: why are all the tall people popular? why does height make a difference? at my school most of the popular people are shorter… but they is still a mixture. its just all the kids with the great clothes, good looks, good sense of humour… rich?
****…but THERE is still a mixture.
Oh, what I said. Yes, I totally don’t understand the more taller you are, the more popular you are. Well, maybe a few short people can be accepted in a more lower group, but for the most, they are tall people. Tall people are the most popular in 6th grade. I don’t know about a 7th grade. I am still in summer vacation. Yes, some of the are rich, good looks, great clothes and cool. So, yeah, person. I find it kind of funny about short people seems more popular. Where are you from? I am from Hong Kong. Maybe there’s a difference in between our countries.
Person, THERE is also a slight mixture of popularity, very slight mixture.
ok, well i think being popular can be a benefit, no only will you have more friends (maybe) but you can also share Jesus with more people. At my school I am very popular, I’m a cheerleader, I’m dating the captain of the football team, and I tend have the latest trends….but that doesnt make me a bad person does it?
Ashleigh,
Being poplular does not make one a bad person. Being popular in and of itself is not a negative thing. What makes “popularity” become an issue for most people, is when they measure their self worth according to someone elses standards of being “popular”. If you are popluar within your school and you know who you are in Christ and look to that for your self worth, that is awesome. And to be able to use your “popularity” to influence others for Jesus, well that is very cool… Keep you eyes on Jesus and continue to be a witness for him. Blessings.
hey florence. thats cool that you are from hong kong. my old teacher is working there right now. but im from canada. cuz im really tall, maybe 5 feet 8 inches… and im not popular.. i mean i have a large amount of friends but im not in the “popular group”.. haha.
It’s sad but the world, media, school, etc. instills in us that popularity brings happiness. God forbid someone looks at us and thinks were weird or we aren’t liked by everyone. Think of the time and energy it takes to get popular. And then when you get there, it’s not as glamorous as you made it out to be is it? It’s more fullfilling to know you are more popular with God than random people who are all in the crazy race just like you. Even if they don’t show it, they’re all lost and hurting, just looking for a purpose or a place to fit in. Were all looking for love. So instead of looking for the fleeting artificial love, strive for the evrlasting love. And the great thing is, all you have to do to gain God’s attention, is being the amazing person he created….you!
God Bless!!!!!
Girls, I am so impressed with what you all have been sharing, what a gift it is to me to be able to talk with you all. Keep striving to be popular with God and he will see to it that all your desires come to pass. Just remember God’s timing is not always on the same schedule as ours. Be patient, keep loving God and loving others!!! Blessings to you all. Keep sharing….
Mickala, I am in agreement with you. Everthing around us tells us that if you’re not popular then you’re nothing. In my school I am a peerhelper and though it has never really appeal to me to be in the “in crowd” those who are in it tend to have a big problem with placing themselves. Finding their true identity is something they struggle with since they never really know who came up with the idea for real. Sometimes the race they’re racing seems to go no where, yes there are many benefits but there are far more disadvantages to them. they may seem all happy to the public eye but i know for a fact that those in my school have big problems and i’m always looking for ways to aid them but i may not be able to reach them all and thats always a problem. So to thopse who sometimes wish to be someone for the “in crowd” I am telling ube happy with your lfe.
Well, I might as well say that 7th Grade is way better. No more popularity things. I have kind of a bit of a group of friends.
How about you?
I was in public school for 5 years and everything was based on what you wore, what you said, how you talked, and so on. No one really wanted to know who I was, they just liked me for what I had. I was a part of the popular group for two years, off and on, and they would always pick on ME and then say, ” You know your my girl, right?” It isn’t fair how people can just be your friend one minute and then the next their your worst nightmare! Popularity is totally twisted. The mean, stuck up people, are the popular ones and the nice, sweet, and smart ones are the GEEKS!!! People only like people like that because they are actually scared of them. Their scared that if they try yo say something against it, that the “populars” will embarras them!!! We should just let go and let God be the light in us and stop trying to be like everyone else!!! We weren’t made to be like everyone else. If that was the point, then God would have made us all the same. But He didn’t and I like myself just the way I am!!! God Bless You ALL!!!
Girls,
Popularity will always be a struggle as long as the focus is in the wrong place. God’s love will always be popular, whether it is recognized or not, keep seeking to be popluar with God and you will have an inner peace that will satisfy you more than the popluarity of others. I am praying for you all, and trusting God to keep you close to him.
You are all popluar with God! You are the best!
wow, some people in general need to here this.Let me tell you a little about me.I’m 14 years old.I love basket-ball,riding my horse,my family,and most of all God.In school I have lots of friends,but I really wish i had more christian friends.I’m new to my school this year have made lots of friends,but still need to do some looking.Thank you all for the info. Some people just need some encouraging words, because it can get hard not to fall in the ways of the world.God bless you all.
I live in Germany, i just moved here, and my school isnt exatly ‘hudgee’ there are 8 people in my class, 4 boy and 4 girls, but for some reason, some people are still more ummm… how sould i say it… not popular, but people seem to like them more. Two f´girls in my class are bestestestest friends, and they just like to not include me and my friend as much… they are into swearing and everything, and that make the boys in the class like them more… But when I get home at the end of the day, i think, why do i feel like i had such a bad day!? those girls might be liked more, but i have something that they dont have, Jesus!!!!
I am always blessed to hear from you all! Ms. HollyHip…. be encouraged you are someone very special! Keep your eyes on Jesus, keep searching for good friends, they are out there! God has you at that school for a reason, I trust you will find all the friends you want, and you will become a friend to those who are also looking and needing a great friend in their lives! Eulah… wow…from Germany… that is way cool!!! Do not judge popularity by the world’s terms, I know that is difficult, however, you want to be “popular” with others who will respect you for who you are both inside and out. The others who may be getting attention for looking a certain way, or talking a certain way, are missing the true meaning of “popularity” or friendships. Keep being the great person God created you to be and remember you do not have to do anything other than be yourself to be “truly popular”! May God continue to bless you all! Keep smiling
ya, i never wanted to be popular….. i dont know, i love my friend. in 7th grade i wanted a best friend. like it would be me and her… thats it! we would tell eachother everything, giggle over guys, we would be the perfect bffs in school. well, now… i have my best friend chloe. we both have boyfriends which we ADORE!
(hers is better, mine doesnt beleive in God 
but im helping him thru it. and hes not causing me to stumble. o, and plz pray for my boyfriend, i really want him to come to God. that would mean the world to me!) and we tell eachother everything, we have every 7 classes together and we both LOVE music. we have our own studios. and we both know how to play 3 instruments. anyways, right now my life is perfect. but whenever i lose God, i become depressed. i dont eat and i dont want to be around anybody. i just go in my room and cry. thats how my life is. i hate school because im around people and everything gets on my nerves. if someone talks to me i want to ring their neck. its weird… i want anyone reading this to pray for me please. thank you! o, sorry that i didnt really answer the question, but i just wanted yall to pray for me.
I don’t want to be popular and I don’t usually talk to many of the popular kids partly because I only know three of them.I like the people I get to surround myself with. If you do happen to read that last part I would love if you could pray for my BF Emmett, ever sence I met him I have noticed his firey toungue. I have tried to help him by praying and strong encouragement from many of my other friends from school. But unfortunantly I need more help because his toungue is still burning stronger than I can stand to be around. Please pray. THANK YOU
Thanks for this article, it is really great!! I go to a christian school but the reality is that most of the students aren’t christian. And what is really annoying is that they like to take the mickey out of christians and I just don’t get it! The ‘popular’ people don’t seem very nice but sometimes it’s hard not to try and fit in with them but it’s then that you really do have to remind yourself that it’s better to be popular in God’s eyes rather than theirs!!!
xx
Girls, keep looking to God for your approval, not to friends/boyfriends… God is the ulitmate judge…and he wants you all to know you are loved and beautiful, concentrate on his love for you and the other things in life will not seem to be so over powering. God’s love for you is unconditional. Keep seeking after him.
Girls that wants popularity are mostly obsess with their look or appearance. They think that their fun, cool, hot, rich, powerfull and always the centre of attraction (especially to boys). To me, girls like that are just wasting their time dealing with themselves and then forgets about what they should improve or working hard for their future and also having some real fun i’ll say… As a girl, I sometimes had the feeling of trying to be popular but when I took the time to think and shared the feelin’ with my friends,, I realised something and I’m very thankfull to God. I don’t need popularity or being centre of attraction, I’m already happy, VERY HAPPY, because having my caring friends beside me makes me feel comfortabe and safe around people. Without them (my friends), I might not be who
I am now. Having true friends is much more fun rather then being popular among obsess friends because they are always there for me to support me. I would like to mention their names… Nicole, Debbie, Ezia, Elvina, Alice, Ochee, Amber, Abner, Ogo, Jay, Dalmer, Jeriel, Rouedan, Elson, Eliezer, Shawn, Dexter, Sherman, and etc…. Thankyou God for giving me such friends like them.
This article is…….AMAZING!! I go to a fairly big private school and In my grade there is a group of populars and then the geeks. I started out in k-4 as best Friends with the so called “geeks” but then in 4th grade one of the cool kids came up to me and said do you wanna sit with us at lunch? Well I thought that I was on top of the world Because They would text me til 10 at night and invite me to sleepovers. Now I am best friends with “populars”. But every now and then I will be sitting with them and look at the table with all the “geeks” and think why aint I over there. All of the “geeks” are really nice and fun to be around but when I hang out with them people will just look at the “geeks” and ask me why I was talking to them. I just say ” everyone is equal and God does not judge so why should I?” Thanks for writing this article! ~BYE~
School in general is really hard these days. I’ve been going to the same school for 8 years and I’m reall starting to get tired of it becauseit seems that a people care about is the outside of a person. It’s just weird because I have a couple chriatian friends who are living their lives for Christ no doubt. But then there’s the people who are like oh im a christian but by their actions you’d think not. As always I will love them and continue praying for them and with them. I just keep reminding myself to live my life according to how Jesus lived his. I also have to tell myself that I am nowhere near perfect so i definatley can’t criticize anyone but i can gently remind here and there. Thanks for this website! It’s a great feeling to hear from other girls that are going the the same things.
Girls, thanks again for sharing your experiences with us all. We all grow and learn from each other and it is a real blessings to have you all sharing your thoughts. The struggles you are facing are real and very challenging. However, remember that with God on your side you have the victory over every circumstance. I pray you all stay strong in your faith, knowing that God is on your side, and he is available to lead, guide and direct your day. Blessings, keep the faith, keep sharing with others.
hey, my name is tammie i am a mom of a girl-leaha, she is 13. I want to try and understand what teen girls go through today. Im not sure if it is all that different from when i was in school but anyway i just want to try and connect with her on her level. I think that it is sad when a girl is judged to be popular just because of her clothes or her looks, i try and teach my daughter (because she is popular) that she has an obligation as a christian to show people that what is most important is the kindness and respect that you show to people that is what matters.she likes to think of herself as aleader, but deep down she is a follower when it comes to her friends. any advice on how she can help to influence her friends in apositive way without feeling like she is preaching to everyone? Also, anyone know of any cool grunge bands that are christians? Im looking for some music for my daughter to listen to. She says that cchristian music is not cool!
It’s possible to be the best you and “popular,”
isn’t it?
They’re fun to hang out with, and make me smile,
and the ones who are christian,
I usually end up have conversations on religion; God and Christ, pretty deep conversations,
and I think that these people are definetely huge blessings in my life.
Oh, and also,
I liked the article.
im really a nice person but was and is always the popular girl but i think that im not being seen as that, that much anymore and its actually getting on my nerves.
Great Article
I go to a public school…where there is temptation everywhere! You don’t want to seem like a softy when somebody say something negative to you but you also don’t want to get in trouble. Your sin nature is telling you to just fight fire with fire..but God is telling you cool out the fire.
I’m tempted everyday. I envy girls who look better than me…or has the boyfriend I like. Yet..I get sexually harrassed. I have a [no trying to sound conceited or anything...] behind and I don’t like it. One point in my life..I wanted that..so I can have a boyfriend. But the only thing they like is your behind. They don’t love you. And I had many heartbreaks because of that too.
I try and at least think WHAT WOULD JESUS DO? And that is just out of the question. Before I tried to grow close to God..I have a friend who believes homosexuality is right and that how do we know God didn’t write the bible? And all this atheist thoughts. I’m trying to get her saved..but she doesn’t want to listen. Something is telling me to not be her friend. But something is also telling me to get her saved.
I want to change..but I don’t want to leave nobody behind.
I love the article. It completly touched me. Please be in prayer of me.
Pray for me to overcome temptation. Pray for my friend(s) who are not saved.
awesome article,but what hurts me? is why are there even cliques in CHURCH.people dislike these people.oh these people dont talk.me?im just confused what kind of church am i getting myself into. im a shy girl,well now i am.since high school changed me,last sunday we had and youth activity.after all the times..i went for her to church.to overcome the obstacle of facing her ex.who now is her actual boyfriend again.she left me,she dosent need me.after all that God took away the poepl form highschool,that have chnaged for the worst.i thought i could have faith with this “friend” i guess not? why?
If you’re worried about being popular and fitting in, don’t. Those girls are really shallow and pretty mean most of the time. I’ve been going to the same school since Kindergarten, so I’ve known these people my whole life. The thing is, nowadays you don’t have to worry about ‘fitting in’ or ‘being popular’ because there will always be a group for you to fit in. And with prayer and faith in this amazing God that we have… you can find that right group. All it takes is patience and trust. That’s all I have to say… don’t know if it helps any…
Maggie,
Friends will dissappoint us at times, it happens to everyone. The “church” is made up of the “people” that are there, people will make mistakes and poor dicisions. That is why we all need Jesus. Look to Jesus for your approval, Trust God to place the right people in your life, he will. Keep pressing on, the race is not over yet…. God is cheering you on!!
Thank you so much.Well i do have only have one friend,but its not fair i only have one? makes me feel unacceptable been going to that church for years and nothing has made me happy.But i am keeping my head up.i Feel like they hate me,since i am not into the group dont show same love.”supposively” they ar einto thee word of god.i believe so too,but some things dont seem Jesus like.i Get along withn the world try my best to be my Christian Self.But it feeels like the world will show me more love then the christians,but the world i feel so unconfortable yeah they show me love,but not the kind of love anybody would want its the world?you cant trust no one.you cant trust it right?
Maggie, You can trust God and trust in God’s word. Those around you are not perfect, just like we are not perfect. God is not done with any of us yet. You should not feel like you fit in with the world, we are not of this word, our home is with God, so we should feel uncomfortable in the world, that’s okay. As for the ‘love’! What you say about feeling more love in the world than in church, I hear often. You are not alone. It shouldn’t be that way…but don’t give up on your faith. God loves you, his love is unconditional and always available to you. When you are not feeling loved by others, go to God and tell him, and allow him to demonstrate his love to you. He will, he is faithful and he loves you! Stay close to God, keep reading his word, spend time with him…he will reveal more of himself to you every day, and you will feel loved! Blessings!
im 5′ 8 too and not popular. i think being popular is over-rated because
a. most people won’t like you anyway
b. being popular usually means doing what the crowd is doing, and the crowd usually doesn’t do the right thing
c. why would you like to have a small group o friends who may pretend to like than be friends with a lot of people and not have a particular group or clique
I’m not popular and get depressed by girls who get boys that are cute and everything but really, they don’t really deserve it. I try not to judge but I find it really true. All my best friends since 1st grade are really okay when it comes to new friends but when you become best friends with them, they bully you. My best friend bullies me. And she abuses me cause I am too kind to them. But one time, I asked myself I have so many best friends but none of them are true. They abuse me because of my kindness. I don’t know why. I think i’m just this useless girl whom nobody cares about. But I accept life truly. And sometimes I have fun with my best friends they’re really fun to be with. But they bully me. One time I had a boyfriend when I was in 5th grade, he was one of the most popular guys in school.. So I became popular too. But our relationship was a disaster. I had many friends since then. And many people liked me, but among the people i’m sure they gossip about me. I try to fit in and enjoy life. And later on I realized, that not being popular is everything. Because being popular cost many gossipers too. And i’ll just keep myself as this crazy fun girl. I’m just quite sad that I haven’t found the true friend i’m finding.
But, this is a great article! 
thanks alot. 
I don’t like the term popular because it is so vague. Im going to be a freshman this year and I consider myself popular but popular for the right reasons… I’m not popular because I wear name brand clothes, or make fun of people for no apparent reason.. I’m popular because I’m nice to people and I treat them like human beings. Popular is as popular does… The gossiping is unnecessary, though I admit I’m not perfect and I have gossiped before, but I look at my friends who are in spats every day with each other and its all because one spread a rumor, or stretched the truth. Drama is stupid and I don’t know why most girls in my class thrive on that. If there isn’t some type of drama during the day, well then to them its just plain boring. I don’t know about anyone else, but I’d prefer a crazy boring day to a day where best friends are pitted against each other. And I probably get talked about too, the label goody two shoes is thrown around quite a bit, but I don’t care. I value my friendships, not my popularity or my status at school. I’m the person who tells the new girl or guy hey and helps them finding their classes, not the one who judges them right away!! I wish more girls could see people the way I see them.
Thanks again for sharing your thoughts on this topic, everytime you share you help someone else who is struggling with this issue. I appreciate your different views. Remember, ‘fitting in’ ~ being ‘popular’ are terms those around us create to try and put everyone in the same box, and if you don’t fit….well…then you are not part of the popular crowd. I am thankful God made us all different. I want to encourage you to be who God created you to be. Being accepted for who you are is a wonderful thing, and for those who do not accept you…I consider that their loss. Stay focused on God’s love for you and share that love with as many people as possilbe. There is no fun in ‘drama’ …strive for peace in your life. Keep smiling and keep being a blessing to others.